Podcast – The Real Consequences of Betrayal with Dr. Debi Silber
Description: Between the latest online fads and the crazy media headlines, it’s easier than ever to get confused about your health. If you want to make better decisions about your health today so you can feel better and live longer, you’ve come to the right place.
“Just get over it” might be the worst possible advice someone can hear after suffering through a major life crisis. Trauma can be a major source of chronic symptoms, but too often it is misunderstood and left unresolved, resulting in prolonged health problems and unnecessary suffering.
I’m joined today by Dr. Debi Silber, speaker, author, and expert on betrayal and post betrayal syndrome. She explains the definition of betrayal, the ways it can manifest in your physical and mental health and the steps that must be taken in order to completely heal. Dr. Silber shares her personal journey from trauma to recovery and offers advice and hope for anyone that is looking for ways to move beyond a painful past to achieve a healthier and happier life.
[1:10] Today’s topic is betrayal and its effect on overall health.
[3:02] Dr. C introduces Dr. Debi Silber, who shares the path that led her to study the experiences of betrayal and the discoveries she made as a result.
[4:40] The definition of betrayal as it affects the unspoken contract of a relationship.
[6:05] Busting another medical myth — time does not heal all betrayal, regardless of the type of betrayal.
[10:15] The physical, mental, and emotional effects of betrayal on the body and their widespread negative results.
[12:05] Understanding the four levels of the ‘window of willingness’, the varying language of apologies or blame, and how it affects healing.
[16:33] What does the optimal path of atonement and forgiveness look like for both the betrayer and the betrayed?
[19:35] The five stages from betrayal to breakthrough that victims must travel through in order to fully heal.
[24:43] The key to healing in Dr. Silber’s study groups was a willingness to do the work of healing, regardless of the level of trauma experienced.
[27:04] The negative effects of numbing or avoiding trauma pain with antidepressants or other drugs, denying the facts of their trauma story, or when the betrayer has no consequences.
[31:15] Common physical and emotional side effects that are present as a result of trauma and betrayal.
[35:25] How you can determine the extent to which you might be struggling with post betrayal syndrome and the categories that are included within the diagnosis.
[39:29] Differentiating the varying degrees of post betrayal syndrome and how to recognize the effects of betrayal in your own life.
[42:27] Dr. Silber’s four-question quiz that can start you on the path to healing.
[45:30] Do you have a topic you’d like me to cover? Contact me on Facebook or Instagram using #medicalmyths.
To learn more:
The Unshakeable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis by Dr. Debi Silber
“Betrayal has so many faces, and too often people suffer for years and don’t even realize it’s an unhealed betrayal.” — Dr. Debi Silber
“Forgiveness isn’t one big grand moment. It doesn’t work like that. It happens in layers and stages.” — Dr. Debi Silber
“People know they want to heal but they don’t always know there is a way.” — Dr. Debi Silber